Define Success

How to Define Success

Edited by Michael Severance, Harri, Teresa, Carolyn Barratt and 6 others

Defining success involves measurable attributes according to a specific, obtainable goal, ideal or priority. Success is defined according to various degrees or levels; "perfect" success is considered unobtainable in the human realm of action. To help you define what success means, start with Step 1 below.

Steps

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   Define specifically (not generally) the goal, ideal or priority that you want to achieve. For example, it is better to declare: "I want a successful marriage in which the husband and wife remain intimate friends, passionate, and who are of the same value system and whose children inherit the same set of values and passion for life" rather than generally declaring "I want to have a successful marriage that is a happy one".
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   To measure your definition of success, set certain limits (time, degree of achievement, personal impact, etc). For example, for a "successful marriage" you might furthermore declare: "I want my marriage to be permanent, at least as happy and peaceful as that of my parents' spousal relationship, and be a source of joy for my children and others."
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   To refine your definition of success, it is necessary to itemize the various specific tasks and steps to follow to achieve the goal, ideal or priority. For example, to have a successful marriage we need to break down the various necessary relational duties and exercises. Here are just a few examples:
   • remain committed daily
   • before going to bed, to speak openly about issues and concerns
   • pray together, especially in times of personal grief and trouble
   • set specific times to socialize as a couple and with children (as opposed to making it a random event)
   • remain open and generous regarding shared finances
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   To judge your success, you should be both "reflective" and "objective". In other words, routinely evaluate your path to success. The best method is to keep a journal and reflect on the status of your goals, ideals, and priorities. You can then adjust them after speaking objectively with a friend or adviser.